Refreshing the Steps of the Couples Dance

There is a certain romanticism to dancing.  The movement to the music conveys emotions, even passion and desire.  Couples dancing conveys emotions to the observer as well as from one partner to the other.  In the finest of dancing the flow of the steps and movement looks choreographed and effortless, with the couple perfectly gliding over the dance floor in harmony.  

Similarly, marriage is like a dance. Two people working as partners, navigating their way across the peaks and valleys in the dance floor of life.  Marriage is just a dance that rarely looks choreographed or effortless.  Keeping the exact pace with a partner over an extended period of time is so difficult.  However, when the dance routine fails, don’t think of it as a reason to get demoralized or give up.  

Just as stumbling and recovering is part of the larger dance of life, it is also very much part of the dance of couples.  Sometimes, couples stumble and are able to get back into their rhythm only losing a step.  Other times, partners find that the stumble has caused their movements to be wholly out of sync and cannot seem to find a way to return to their partner.  It is at such a time when a timeout may be necessary to re-learn the steps of the dance or even be able to hear the music again.

Loss of step isn’t so much about assigning responsibility for causing the hiccup, it’s about knowing there is an issue, wanting to fix it, and taking time and making the effort to get back in sync.  Seeking marital or couples counseling is similar to getting private dance lessons.  Partners benefit from a candid and impartial third party who will see where little movements or considerations might be made to improve or correct the flow of the dance. 

When a partnership becomes fractured, the movements become stilted and stuttered.  The couple moves painfully through motions and can even wonder whether it’s better to dance solo.  Through couple counseling and therapy, such dance partners might learn there are benefits to structured separation or divorce.  But often, if two people want to try to dance together, through hard work, time, effort and a little therapeutic guidance they can hear the same tune and gently return to complementary movements to again dance to the rhythm of life. 

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